If you daughter has children and you haven't seen them in nearly three years, and they don't know who you are, and when you call here they refuse to talk to you because they don't know who you are? You are NOT allowed to call yourself a grandmother. And if your stepson has children, do not call your daughter on a beautiful Saturday morning and tell her you are a grandmother again. You aren't one to begin with...there is no again. I'm just sayin.